A December survival guide from one career mum to another

I love Christmas especially the build-up. I love the way my children’s excitement builds, all the Christmas cheer in the office and I’m one of those who is not dismayed by how early trees are going up, the festive tunes are playing on the radio and the talk starts. What I do dismay at, is the power Christmas has in causing chaos and disruption to my flow at work and at home.

It’s not just the at home activities which increase with a diary full of shows, social gatherings, tree ceremonies, lights up, sing ups and gingerbread house making (whoever came up with that one as something we can all do at home thank you!). I find that pre-Christmas is one of my busiest periods at work for projects, new business, creativity and completion. So, although we talk about quality time with children, friends and family being key at Christmas,  I also believe that maintaining quality at work should also be a priority.  However, that’s when the battles begin. if we want to continue functioning effectively at work and at home in December, to have some level of control, it means managing the Inner gremlins and pure exhaustion which burst to the top whenever we put ourselves into a situation where comparison, perfectionism and juggling come in abundance. Rather than the season of joy it can quite easily become the season of agony.

So, here are 7 strategies I adopt to survive December, to manage wellbeing, quality performance at work and at home plus enjoy the festive season (something which us  mums all too often forget is as important for us as well as for others)

your inferior complex

Any form of comparison puts unnecessary pressure and expectations on yourself so it has to be the first thing to get in control. You may have this in control all year round but Christmas can send the crazy comparison saboteur tendencies into overload. Costumes, how many festive lunches or nights out you have in the diary, what family treats you’ve booked in the run up to the big day, when your tree goes up, having all presents done and wrapped, business travel AND nativity show achieved – are just a few I know us mums will have one eye on this season in comparison to others. Make a promise to yourself that you will judge yourself only based on what you believe to be achievable and acceptable and not what you see (or think!) others are doing.

Be selective and delegate

Personally, I would rather see the children singing and visiting Santa than watching them fighting over who is going to stick what where on the gingerbread house. So, be selective on what you actually want to do and understand you don’t have to do everything. Many of the things we initially think have to be part of the plan in the run up to Christmas can often be parked, delegated or done in a less complicated or time consuming way. It’s the same with work tasks, do you have to do everything before the Christmas break?, what can you delegate, delay or even delete from the list? Identify your priorities and maintain a rational head to keep the perfection gremlin, mummy guilt and the fear of missing out under control.

You have to say NO

All year round, many of us constantly feel a need to prove we are fully functioning and present as a parent and a career professional; always being willing and ready to stay longer, take a last minute business trip, move a deadline, attend an assembly, make rather than buy  -and NO is one of our hardest words. The word Yes roles off our tongue, through gritted teeth and with panic or guilt in the belly much too easily. It’s a fear of being judged for not doing our best or being available plus the fact that we all want to please and support others.

Being able to confidently say NO rather than yes when you need to is key to survival in December. Not just to others but to yourself too. Getting hot on life and not just task priorities, deciding what your trade-offs will be, the impact and the bigger picture is important. Always take time to understand what saying yes really means by considering what you are actually saying no to. This way it becomes easier to challenge or counter requests plus put any guilt to bed.

Say yes!

On the flip side, this is the one time of year which we really should say yes more to social and quality time. I find with end of year exhaustion, the volume of requests, the huge work and personal to do list, it’s easy to keep saying no to social engagements in December.  Then only to look back end of the month and realise you didn’t make time to enjoy the season, to let your hair down, be social and boost the serotonin levels which you know you need to get through Christmas itself and into the New Year. Try and say yes to as many things you can which will make you personally happy and which will help you feel good. Not just the kids or the extended family. Then lead yourself effectively during the period with personal rules on indulgence!

Ask questions

Communication is key in managing my work and home all year round but never so pivotal in December. Gathering insight and arming yourself with facts before decisions will always make things easier. Ask people what they want for Christmas rather than trying to work it out – they won’t judge you at all. If you’re asked to attend a meeting which adds travel, requires a trade off with something else take time to ask a couple of questions to clarify purpose, requirements and flexibility. Asking questions enables an element of control in the decision making and helps manage the personal gremlins. Create conversation as much as possible to manage your time, priorities and your emotions.

Schedule, plan and organise everything

You wouldn’t operate a project without a plan and list, so treat December and Christmas in the same way. Open the diary and block time for all you have to do, create a list and don’t just check it once or twice like Santa, keep it updated and in check throughout the month. Manage the overwhelm with daily lists and celebrate the successes and completions with a Christmas treat here and there!

You can’t multi-task

Well you can but you won’t do yourself or the task in hand any good. Juggling doesn’t mean doing things all at the same time, it doesn’t mean multi-tasking, it means getting the right things done, in the right time and the best way possible. Sheduling, saying no more often and prioritising all help with focus. The other must is to switch off  electronic devices, use personal self talk and sett boundaries to keep yourself present on whatever you are doing in the moment.

I hope even if you use just one of these startegies you can bring things in line, take back control and manage overwhelm, conflicts and performance battles at work and at home so as to enjoy December.

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‘We can do anything in life but we can’t do everything’

This is the mantra which powers my own personal Self-Leadership when I’m trying my best spinning the plates and holding down the job of mum and career woman. It’s human nature and our maternal instinct that makes us want and feel that we must do everything and be everything to everyone. As a coach,I’ve made it my mission to help fellow career mums to never feel stuck, frustrated or overwhelmed and to stop falling foul of the misconception of what successful career and motherhood looks like.

Work with me as your cheerleader, coach and believer in 2018 to maximise the potential a new year holds so that you can shine and be super effective as both a mum and a career woman.

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  • Navigate the ups, downs and roundabouts of work and home more effectively
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  • Feel confident in your skin and believe in yourself no matter what hat you are wearing
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My personal strategies for beating perfectionism

If you are like me and fight the need for everything to be perfect everyday then you are probably good at motivating yourself to achieve your best, focused on high standards and have pride in what you are doing. However, you may also suffer from procrastination, stress and it may make you a tough person to be around and have a relationship with.

Here are my personal strategies for beating the pain of perfectionism and to help lead yourself more effectively to success.


Notice the inner critic triggers – You know those whispering words which feed the need to be perfect are not coming from your true self but your inner critic so noticing the negative chatter in your head is key. When you notice something, you can chose to manage it, to listen to it and to react to it. Start by keeping a track on the words you hear and the times the perfectionist inner saboteur begins to whisper – journalling is great tool for this. This way whenever you start something new or find yourself in a certain situation you will purposely look out for the negative self talk and be ready to manage it.

Self-talk exercise – When the inner critic hits be ready to listen to your true self to counter the negative words with positive and rational self-talk. Bring the two voices out into the open and have a conversation in front of a mirror. There are always different ways to look at things and countering the negative chatter with a different point of view will help put things in better perspective and open up your mind to the bigger picture not just the task in hand.

Everyone is different – Just because something is not written how you would write it or look exactly how you’d present it doesn’t make it wrong, mean it needs more attention or is not good enough. Delegating gets things done but you must accept things may be done differently from how you’d do them. So, ensure that your judging criteria is based on content and not on looking and sounding exactly like your own personal vision.

Priorities – When we’re busy perfecting we’re often not doing something else. The hours rechecking work, procrastinating on which way to go and feeling frustrated could in most instances definitely be spent on something more important. So, understand and ask yourself what your priorities are and decide whether the extra hours spent on ‘perfecting’ a task is as important to you as the hours you miss out on doing something else. More often than not the brain tells you enough is enough when you are clearer on priorities.

Set a deadline – If you know how long a task should take then don’t allow yourself to spend a second longer on the task. Deadline yourself. Set an alarm and tell yourself that this is the point to stop. You are in control of how long you spend on something so develop ways to discipline yourself based on knowledge not perfection.

Don’t compare – Who really cares if ‘so and so’ uses better words than you, could have taken a different approach or looked at something from a different angle? Only you unless you never get something done! If you get the job done, have taken care and attention over the delivery and achieved an acceptable result then your work is good enough. Polishing and polishing in fear that someone else could do something better will only make it shinier not necessarily improve the content and delivery.

Look at things through your own eyes not the perceived eyes of another – When we start to worry about what others think we create perceptions and expectations based on stories we tell ourselves rather than fact. At this point  we are experiencing a lack of Self-Belief.  Stop and. reconnect with your own skills, strengths, ideas and the value you have by reminding yourself of your successes and the positive feedback you have received in the past. Boost your self-belief and you’ll boost belief in your ideas and work.

Use the ideal as a guide not a destination – Aim to get as close as you can to your vision but accept that the destination you have in your head may not be as possible as the vision you are creating in reality. Guide yourself in the right direction with your perfect vision and always reflect on what you are achieving not what you are not perfecting.

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Spoilt for choice

Often I see clients who say they are stuck. It’s a horrible place to be. I know from personal experience.  You know something is wrong but you don’t know how to lead yourself effectively forward. You strongly believe all doors are shut, there are too many obstacles in the way and uncertainty is too uncomfortable.

The reality is that often when we feel stuck it is not because we are lacking options but because we are spoilt for choice.

Decision making is hard as we all know the future is not set but our mind gives a good attempt at filling us with doom, gloom, fear and anxiety as if we have a crystal ball. You know those internal conversations – what if? maybe it’s a mistake? Better the devil you know? etc.

However, even when we feel we are not being decisive we are in fact making a decision, the decision to do nothing.

Beginning a process of reframing and exploring to include the powerful question ‘What if I did nothing?’ can bring greater clarity and focus This question helps you to see the reality of the consequence of standing still, of deciding to do nothing. It forces you focus on the bigger picture of what you are seeking and the ultimate goal in mind. When you ask this question remember to capture your emotions as well as your thoughts too – sometimes the answer lies not just in words but in feelings.

Give it a go and see how effective this one powerful question is to break a period of indecision.

Lead yourself to success


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Journaling – a self leadership strategy for instant transformation

When we take time to capture what we think, what we do and what we notice about our environment and the people we interact with, we can unearth a lot of personal insight. This insight when considered can open the doors to change and transformation as we spot for example, patterns in thinking and behaviour which we discover are helping us or sabotaging us.

One strategy I introduce to clients at the beginning of a coaching relationship is journaling as a perfect way of capturing insight and spotting things which we may be blind to.

With personal insight through heightened awareness comes the opportunity to transform ourselves. To be more confident in our decisions, more motivated to make a change, to try new habits and to create smarter ways of thinking and behaving.

Journaling is pretty easy but needs discipline and focused attention.  I have laid out my simple approach to journaling in a  training course on Skill Share – the online learning community. ‘Self Leadership: How to work smarter using journaling’ is available now along with lots of other great courses from people like Simon Sinek and Seth Godin as well as many independent business owners and creatives.

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Are you learning enough?

With the buzz of kids going off to a new school term,  I’ve been thinking about the importance of continued learning for us ‘grown ups’ for our career acceleration and ongoing performance effectiveness.

Our opportunity to learn is all around us in so many formats. However, many of us fall into the trap of natural complacency and the comfort of a career or a role that we don’t pursue the chance to actively keep learning as we get older. Along with this feeling of complacency also comes excuses. Lack of time, lack of company funds or a poor training policy were my personal favourites for why I simply stopped investing in learning.

But learning is so important and a key foundation of self leadership because learning delivers –

A greater range of perspective, ideas & creativity

Feeds your curiosity

Builds expertise & skills

Boosts confidence

Makes us more willing to challenge

Personal development & growth

A competitive advantage

The successful achievement of dreams, visions, career acceleration and business growth

A smile on your face!

So how can you get back in tune with learning?

Be mindful and attentive to daily lessons

We have no excuse not to learn.  To start with we can learn something every day simply through taking time to review and reflect on the actions we take, the mistakes we make and the interactions we have.  Being mindful and attentive to daily lessons of personal performance – thoughts, emotions and behaviour – is active learning you can do without the need for investment, too much time and a company policy. It just needs discipline, habit and prioritisation.

Expose your vulnerability

Admitting you don’t know everything can take a lot of courage and requires us to expose a level of vulnerability. Many would rather stand still than expose their imperfections. To disclose a weakness takes a personal strength and self-confidence which can be tough. Ignoring the inner critic whispers off comparison and perfection is difficult. I have three tips to I use to help push past fear of exposing vulnerability;

  1. Discover and write down positive empowering beliefs around the importance, the results and the additional benefits of learning. Repeat these daily to yourself to counter the negative whispers.
  2. Use self talk to remind yourself of ‘what you do well’ and take the focus off what you need to develop.
  3. Embrace the idea of ‘individuality’ and personal needs to fight comparison.

Set a goal

Accepting you need to learn more is one thing but knowing what to learn and how to go about it is another. Get clear on your learning goal to set a direction and then start researching to unearth the options and the steps you’ll need to achieve the goal.

Maximise ‘dead’ time

No matter how busy we believe we are there is always ‘dead time’ which could be used more effectively. Challenge all limiting beliefs around not having time to learn straight away! Be honest with yourself about how much time you waste on leading yourself with poor choice of activity which could be used more effectively to feed the mind. Travel time, for example, I class as ‘dead time’. Even if your trips are 10 minutes or an hour or more you could use this time to learn – constructive reading, watching a ted talk or listening to a podcast or audio book spring to mind rather than aimless web surfing.

So do you think you are learning enough? Why not make a conscious decision this month to increase your learning by taking these steps ….

  • Ask yourself ‘if I could learn one thing this month what would it be? and set a learning goal
  • Create space to reflect, review and make note of your daily learnings at the end of every day
  • Review how you spend your time and spot ‘dead time’
  • Create a new habit – formally make time in the schedule ‘for learning’
  • Investigate new courses, webinars, training opportunities, pod casts and audio books

Chose to lead yourself to success effectively with greater emphasis on learning and you will start to close the gap between where you are today and where you want to be.

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Stopping Overwhelm in its tracks

At the start of September, we all get back into the swing of  work with a little excitement and feeling focused. That back to school feeling from years gone by still sits in my psyche that’s for sure. It’s now time to knuckle down and get all those things done we have deferred over the last few weeks. We’re feel energised and ready for action after a rest and sunshine, although slightly miffed the summer is over. However, before long you know it will be business as normal and with business as normal comes the potential for overwhelm and its pal’s anxiety and stress.

So, in anticipation of the dreaded ‘O’ word creeping into our lives here are 5 self-leadership strategies to help be productive and to manage overwhelm.

Zero inbox policy – Staring at an ever growing email inbox is an unnecessary pressure. Start a fresh this September and take an hour today to clear that inbox down to zero. Use the 4 D process of – Do it (if it can be done in 5 mins), Delete it (be honest with yourself do you really need it), Defer it (create folders with purpose) and Delegate it (pass it on to someone who can get it done). Whilst you are at it have an unsubscribe detox and stop unwanted emails from clogging your inbox. Then set the zero inbox as a daily personal rule. Go on you can do it and you will feel better!

Manage your own expectations – Often we are worse enemy thinking we can do more than is possible in one working day or worse still believing everything needs to be done immediately.  There are 24 hours in a day and if you’ve got your life priorities in check you are likely to be working 8-10 of those without feeling frustrated or disillusioned. So, get crystal clear on those priorities, be realistic of what can be done in one day and be realistic on how long things will actually take so you can plan and slash your daily to do list accordingly. It will empower you to say NO more often and very importantly you will be kinder to yourself when things slip into the next day.

80:20 rule – the reality is that 80% of your results will come from 20% of your to do list so be clear on what that 20% is (Paretos Principle). Work out exactly where you should be focusing your attention delegate, defer or dump from the to do list everything else. You can download my action priority matrix FREE tool here to help.

Remember you can manage your attention not your time – Time will never change it’s fixed at 24 hours but how you use your time is in your control. Limit distractions – it’s not just email and social media, but consider your environment and the people around you. Take steps to stop interruptions and any ‘fear of missing out’ compulsions by being disciplined and set personal boundaries and rules.

Take breaks – Be honest with yourself – If you work non-stop for 8-10 hours grabbing  coffees here and there, indulging on biscuits for energy and running for a grab and go lunch at 4pm which you eat at your desk, will you really be powering on all cylinders for all that time? Nope. Refreshing your attention span is imperative if you want to achieve optimum performance and get more done in a day. Schedule regular breaks – they don’t have to be long but long enough to rest your brain, your eyes and to enable you to avoid unproductive slumps. Don’t forget a proper pause and healthier lunch (refuel your mind and body!). The reality is you will get more done at a better standard if you stop now and then throughout the day.

Don’t forget you are in control of how you spend your time and no one else. This means you are in control if your overwhelm. So lead yourself to success every day through strategies such as those above and you will be more effective, productive and happier and will be able to stop overwhelm in its tracks.

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Action Made Easy

A lot of what I do is focused on helping people work out how they can take the action they need to advance in their career, to grow their business, to be a more confident person or a more productive worker.

Simple fact – Action is imperative if we want to achieve anything. You can think, dissect, explore, plan, dream, believe but without an action step nothing can grow, change or be created.

To admit to procrastinating, to find the self-doubt or the block which is stopping movement can release the action taker in you and is what makes the successful person over the water treader.

Action doesn’t have to be all singing dancing, big jumps and throwing yourself into the unknown and the uncertain without any fear or hesitation. Small steps are just as powerful as big.

So here are some top tips for a Monday to help action be that little easier this week and help you lead yourself to success;

Set a goal – To be an action person you need to be clear on where you want to get to, an end result to drive yourself towards. Clarity on the goal, it’s time span and knowing how you will recognise you have hit the destination point will give you confidence.

Visualise – If you have that goal in mind spend time each day visualising it to see it, feel it and immerse yourself within it. Research shows the more we can visualise our end-result the more we can manifest its creation.

Chunk it down – I find things look less scary when they are chunked down. It also can be a wake up call as to how much needs to be done which can be the kick to get started! Work with the end in mind and then break the path into small manageable chunks. Small steps are just as impactful as big steps but easier to mentally manage and limit overwhelm.

Stop over analysing – stop thinking and stop researching as if you must have all the answers immediately. Analysis is great but it can continue along the way. Start and then review throughout to keep track of your progress and your learnings to feed further action.

Be gone perfection – Seeking perfection stops action.  A wise person tells me a lot that ‘you and whatever you are working towards are a work in progress’. It helps beat my perfection bug and reminds me there will always be mistakes, hiccups and hurdles to climb, but if we can view these as necessary learnings and our personal growth we can break down the need to criticise our imperfection.

Eliminate self-doubt – With self -talk and affirmations to help boost your positivity levels and build confidence you can attract the self-leadership mindset to power you forward and put self doubt out of your mind. Start each day with your personal words of wisdom to your-self to fill your head with positivity, kindness, compassion and be self motivating.

Reward yourself – If you were trying to encourage someone else chances are you would be incentivising them in some way. So, give yourself an incentive with a promise of a reward for taking action. Big or small it will create motivation and keep you going.

Energise yourself  – Where do you find your enegry? Perhaps take a walk, a run or spend time with a good friend. Find your energy boosting way to raise serotonin levels, get more oxygen running through your blood and simply put you in the right emotional and physical state to take action.

Believe in you – Remind yourself of how special you are, your value and what you can offer to everyone along the way to the goal. Don’t hide and rob the world of your talent!

Get yourself a coach – Action takers seek support. Accountability, guidance and a way of unearthing new perspectives, the blocks and your solutions  will move you forward quickly and effectively.

Engage the leader within and you will take steps to move yourself closer from where you are today and where you want to be in the future.

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Are your beliefs holding you back?

The day I realised my beliefs were holding me back was the day I stopped treading water in my life and my career. It was the moment I discovered how much potential I was failing to fulfil, how my effectiveness was being limited and when I finally understood what my true vision of success looked like.

Believe is such a great word, it is magical and mystical, it is strong yet soft, it is sparkly yet sturdy.

Our beliefs are what define us, they are our blueprint on how we look upon the world around us. They lead our thinking, our decisions and therefore our behaviour. They are unique to us, personal reflections of the experiences we have had in life, the conversations, the people we have been surrounded by and influenced by. They live in our subconscious and without much consideration they come and lead us confidently. Self-worth, Self-esteem and confidence are rooted in beliefs. Beliefs determine what we see as fact no matter whether we have evidence to support them or not. Our beliefs can push us forward into the unknown, allow us to take risk, fuel our determination, our perseverance and lead us to our desires of success.

Beliefs are powerful and amazing. But only when they are empowering.

Mixed within our bank of beliefs are a lot of unfiltered beliefs which we have picked up along our life experience which we hold to be true but which actually when we start to take time to assess them don’t reflect who we are, what we stand for and what we value at work and in life. These beliefs can hold us back without us giving it a second thought. They cause hesitation, can stop us in our tracks, create internal mind fireworks of panic and anxiety. They feed the inner critic. They can paint a picture of doom and gloom. They can lead us down the wrong path, prevent us from taking risks and keep us stuck in situations which are not healthy to us or the people around us. They influence our behaviour styles and strategies. They can limit our curiosity and our ability to think out of the box. They can limit our effectiveness, drive procrastination and kill our self-confidence and self-esteem.

Yes, beliefs are powerful and amazing but can also be limiting and mostly without us knowing it.

My personal experience and awakening to the power of beliefs was linked to my frustration and unhappiness with my career a few years back. I was out of love with the work I was doing and working in a business I was unaligned with in terms of my values and priorities, all because of my beliefs. For example,

I believed I would not be able to find another job which would give me flexible working or pay me as well

I believed I was stuck in a particular industry and it was too late to change career path

I believed it was just the way it was and you had to lump it when your values are not being met at work

I believed change was too hard and complicated

I believed success came before happiness

I believed other people were to blame

I believed the vision of success I had was just a dream

I didn’t truly believe in my abilities

When I finally woke up to these limiting beliefs, when I pulled them from my subconscious and took time to challenge them, to look for evidence to support them and understand their roots, I started to see new perspectives. I was able to push through fear and climb over hurdles and make the changes that my heart and mind truly desired.

I became more effective in decision making, in leading others as well as myself, my day to day performance improved. I became happier and more balanced. I became more confident in myself and my abilities.

Beliefs are magical, powerful and empowering when they work for you not againstyou and my eureka moment around beliefs was my catalyst into the world of coaching. I want to help others who like me are limiting themselves in finding true success and the ability to maximise their potential because of their beliefs. Through coaching I now help people master their beliefs and their mindset and empower them to lead themselves effectively every day in their career and businesses.

I say it is like blowing on a dandelion – with each breath you send off into the wind the things which have been holding you back until you are left with your core.

So, how well do you understand your beliefs and how could they be holding you back in performance effectiveness and personal success?

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Managing the whispering critical voice

I’m running a workshop this week at an authors conference which will shine a light on the part our inner critic and beliefs play in building and knocking our confidence.

Many are seeking support on the imposter within and a constant fear of failure. Many are living in the shadows of an internal critic whispering words judgement, criticism and doubt which forces them to focus on perfection, to keep researching rather than creating, to keep them safe instead of stepping outside of their comfort zone and are focusing to quickly on the idea of failure rather than all the positive moments of success.

If this resonates, here are 4 tips to help you manage the whispering critic.

1. Remind yourself – the negative whispers you hear are a point of view & not fact.

2. Eliminate a belief for perfection – use personal rules & ambitions as your guide not as the holy grail.

3. With every negative word you hear there will be an empowering belief which will help challenge your negative thought. Remind yourself of your achievements, successes, positive feedback and self-worth and use intentional self-talk to confront the whispering critic within.

4. Get to know your whispering critic – name it & visualise it – this will enable you to separate it from your inner wisdom voice and to spot it quickly so that you don’t follow it unconsciously.

Lead yourself to success.